Guilt: A Christian Perspective (Personal Growth Challenge)

As humans, we often find ourselves struggling to do the right thing. We want to do it, but time and time again, we find ourselves doing the exact opposite. Feeling guilty, we’re tempted to think about our mistakes over and over again, wishing we could just go back in time and undo them. The reality is, we can’t.

Now here’s a twist. The same guilt that constantly reminds us of our errors can be the very reason we keep on repeating them. As a result, we keep on reliving the same shame and regret, never truly finding peace. These feelings can take us to a place of hopelessness, where we feel as if we can never be able to recover.

But regardless of how we feel about ourselves or what we have done, we know that God is ready and willing to forgive, but we must first be willing to make ourselves vulnerable before Him and ask with a sincere heart.

I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake, and remembers your sin no more.

– Isaiah 43:25


Now, let’s get one thing straight. This message isn’t only for “people like me.” These words are intended for anyone who is willing to take that leap of faith; to explore and challenge the inner self and embrace its vulnerability.

Whoever you may be, whatever you’re dealing with, today I challenge you to pour your heart out to God. Tell Him everything. Do not let guilt win, but embrace the future that awaits you.

 

Relationships – What I’ve Learnt

The younger version of me often liked to fool herself into thinking she was in love. When reality finally hit, some hard lessons were learnt, and probably for the best.

Here are five things I’ve learnt about love:

1. Don’t trust your gut.

Ever heard of butterflies? Yeah. I don’t trust them. For me, they can make a bad idea look golden. It took a long time for me to realize it, but butterflies isn’t always a sign that you’re in love.

2. Love is hard work.

A healthy relationship requires commitment. What that means is sticking together through thick and thin.

While arguments are pretty normal for the most part, both parties should work towards resolving issues effectively. Pretending as if nothing happened probably won’t help much.

3. Choose wisely.

The world paints this sort of picture where any person you’re attracted to, you’re going to be compatible with. Beyond this, there is also another conflict: great compatibility, but little attraction. Both scenarios are complex and can be quite frustrating.

Attraction and compatibility go hand in hand for me, and I see now that it does not make me shallow. Personality, however, should always comes first. The key is to choose a partner who builds you up, and to play your part as well, returning the favour.

4. I don’t need a hero.

There. I said it.

You’ll not believe how awful I feel when I pour my heart out to a friend, only to hear that what I need is a boyfriend. Perhaps that is my punishment for only ever having mostly guy friends in my lifetime. But that’s besides the point.

Let’s get this straight. I have no problem with being involved with someone romantically, but I doubt the solution to all my problems would be getting a boyfriend. Why? Because a partner, most of the time, is only there to listen, not to solve.

It can be great having such a strong support, but at the end of the day, what’s left? Are we truly interested in each other, or what we can do for each other?

5. A lover is not a guarantee.

Some people just weren’t meant to get married, and I’ve long accepted this. I’ll admit that I’ve hardly put much effort in finding a lifelong partner. I’m only 18 after all. But whether or not I do, I will find a way to make myself content. There is no guarantee that I will find a romantic partner in this life, and that’s okay.

6. Be patient.

Being the age that I am, it seems as if I’m the only one who isn’t with someone. This has never particularly bothered me, but when everyone seems too busy for you, the pressure is on.

But is it really?

Personally, I take relationships seriously. I’d hate to think that I for the sake of not being alone, I’d settle for anything.

7. Be honest.

To those who’ve known me, I can seem a little aromantic. In reality, I feel everything intensely. How do I deal with it? By pretending I don’t.

Unfortunately, when you’re drawn to a person, you’re going to want to act on those feelings. Suppressing these feelings only leads to agony, and in the end, all you have is a missed opportunity.

On the other hand, some feelings are best left as what they are – feelings.

7. If you love him, show him.

I want to know he cares for me. I want to know that I am loved, and I’d assume my partner would too. Sometimes, love takes a little more than simply being aware of each other’s feelings. As many often say, actions speak louder than words, and that goes for both of us.

8. It doesn’t have to be so scary.

This has been the toughest lesson for me. The mere thought of falling in love with someone overwhelms me to a point where I just want to get away as soon as possible. I’d assume I come off a little callous to others, though the reality is that I feel everything intensely. Love is no different, and I wouldn’t want it to get the best of me.

Still, there is beauty in it all – opening your heart up to a special someone. As hard as it may be, the result just might make it all worthwhile. If I let it all happen naturally, then it doesn’t have to be so scary.


Love at the end of the day, of course, is different for everyone, defined by their own walks in life. While I myself have never been in love, I’m learned all I need to know from the world around me. More importantly, I’ve learned that love is a beautiful thing, regardless of what form it takes.


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On Modern Art

By now, it should be quite obvious that I am absolutely in love with art. These days, I’ve been exploring my artistic side, journaling & dabbling a bit in photography.

I am a believer in meaningful art – art with a purpose – even if that purpose is as simple as taking a moment to appreciate the beauty of nature. Art is meant to make us feel something; to challenge our minds.

Today, things are a little different. Art has become so controversial that it seems we’ve seen in all. Nothing shocks us anymore. Nothing is left up to the imagination, & the effect it has had on us is enormous, yet many of us don’t realize it.

Some believe that art has to be dark to be meaningful, but I’m going to be honest. This kind of art takes me to a very bad place. For this reason, I try to be careful when choosing which things to indulge in, but that’s just me.

What are your thoughts on art? Let me know by answering these questions.

1. What is the purpose of art?

2. How has art impacted our society?

3. How has art changed over the years?

4. Does art have to be shocking to be meaningful?

5. Should artists reveal everything in their art, or maintain an air of mystery?

That’s it! Feel free to share your answers in a blog post or in the comment section below. Enjoy!


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Fear/Anxiety – Tips & Advice

Previously, I have spoken about my experience with agoraphobia. However, I have yet to tell how I overcame it. Below is a list of tips for those who are struggling with anxiety.

Please note that the advice which is about to be given is based on personal experience and not professional knowledge.

1. Learn more about anxiety.

When suffering from an anxiety disorder, it can feel as if your body is the enemy. Understanding anxiety can help you to stop feeling this way. If you suspect you have an anxiety disorder, schedule an appointment with a doctor, preferably one you feel comfortable with.

The internet also has quite a lot of information on this topic. Keep in mind that many struggle with anxiety and there is no reason to feel ashamed.

2. Keep a journal.

Writing is therapeutic. It allows you to free your thoughts, dumping all your emotions onto the page. It digs deep into your subconscious and reveals things to you. It can not only help you make sense of your anxiety, but provides a sense of relief. Keep in mind that it is not the only outlet.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.

This one sounds a little cliche, but for many, it is no doubt an important part of the recovery process. Having a friend or a group of friends who support you & are rooting for you to get better is a great way to start challenging your negative thoughts. Though it is impossible to control what everyone else says, having someone to support you can be enough to help you power through it.

4. Take care of your body.

Though not entirely a cure, getting adequate rest and exercise is necessary. While anxiety itself makes it difficult to sleep, there are some foods & teas that may help. Chamomile tea, for example, calms the nerves and makes falling asleep a little easier. Changing a few things about your diet will also make a difference. Eliminate caffeine, refined sugars & alcohol. See more here.

5. Don’t fight the feeling.

Breathing exercises can help soothe anxiety, if done correctly. Rather than trying to escape a situation that makes one anxious, it is helpful to doing a breathing exercise instead. It is a powerful tool which one can even use to overcome anxiety. See exercises here.

Spirituality is also beneficial for many individuals struggling with fear/anxiety. Though friends won’t always be around, knowing that God is watching over you brings a sense of comfort.

6. Say “yes.”

This is where things get tough. For those who suffer from anxiety disorders, it can be easier to avoid situations that trigger fear than to take chances. This is no surprise as anxiety disorders causes the individual to suffer from intense feelings of fear in certain situations, unlike that which one who does not suffer from an anxiety disorder would feel. But for some, the key to recovery can be as simple, and as terrifying, as saying “yes.”

*This means saying yes to the things you like to do that are beneficial to you (which fear prevents you from doing).

7. Seek help.

Find a professional that’s right for you. Trust plays a vital role in this decision as it can be difficult to open up to someone you barely know. Take your time. Get to know them and allow them to get to know you. Keep in mind that nothing you say can leave that room unless it involves hurting yourself/ others. However, please do not let this deter you. It is all apart of the recovery process.


Once again, these are tips I have found helpful during my own plight. My greatest advice for you is to do what works for you, as long as it doesn’t harm you or anyone around you.

Writing Prompt – “Empathy”

To all writers, this one’s for you. Today’s challenge is inspired by my own personal experience with empathy.

In a general sense, I wouldn’t say I have a problem with empathizing with others, though I can’t always find the right words to say. Technically, it is impossible for us to be able to understand every problem an individual faces. However, there’s always room for growth!

Today I challenge you to put yourself in another’s shoes. The prompt is to write a story revolving around a character struggling with an issue you don’t quite understand very well. You may post it here on WordPress, or write for your own eyes.

I hope that you all learn something from this challenge. Enjoy.

10 Questions – Blogging

Hey everyone! This time, I decided to do something a little different, but not exactly what you’d consider unconventional. Today, I have ten questions about blogging for you to answer. Feel free to give it a try!

  1. When did you start blogging and why?
  2. How would you describe your blog?
  3. What is your blogging goal?
  4. What has blogging taught you so far?
  5. What do you love most about blogging?
  6. What’s your favourite blog (if any)?
  7. What makes blogging important to you?
  8. How do you think blogging can benefit others?
  9. What has blogging done for you so far?
  10. Do you have any advice for new bloggers?

That’s all, folks! If you plan on answering these questions, remember to tag me in your post so I can read it. Cheerio!

I Dare You: Challenge Your Insecurities

I stand firm in my belief that before you can love others, you have to learn to love yourself. Today, I want you to challenge you.

I’d like to think that all or most of us have felt insecure at some point in our lives. For some, insecurity is something they only have to deal with once in a while. For others, it’s something they have to deal with everyday.

Insecurity can often cause many of us to miss out on life’s greatest opportunities. My task is for you to challenge any negative thought that tells you to do something because you are not good enough.

Don’t let it stop at that. Constantly challenge your negative thoughts.


As always, thanks for the support. More blog-related challenges on the way!

I Dare You: Take A Chance

Hey everyone! Some time ago, I kicked off my blog challenge series. At the time, I challenged you to speak out against injustice. Today, I want to challenge you to do something a bit different.

The Chance Challenge is all about taking chances. Often times, we refuse to take chances because we fear rejection and mockery. But without taking chances, we will only be stuck in one place, never changing or growing.

My challenge for you is to do something you were too scared to do because you fear failure. Whether it be auditioning for a talent show or telling a loved one how you really feel, it’s all up to you (but please, be safe).

Have fun, everyone!

10 Questions – Getting to Know You

Hey everyone. As promised, I’ve started to post some activities you can do to spice up your blog, or simply just to have fun!

  1. Introduce yourself.
  2. Why do you blog/write?
  3. What do you do for fun?
  4. What is a pet peeve of yours?
  5. What is your favourite place to be?
  6. What do you like about yourself?
  7. Where do you see yourself in the future?
  8. What makes you happy?
  9. What is one of your biggest regrets in life?
  10. Share a memorable moment in your life.

That’s it! If you choose to answer, be sure to tag me in your post and I will surely check it out. In the mean time, here are my answers:

  1. I’m Dainelle, an 18 year old blogger with dreams of becoming a published author.
  2. I write because I want to make a difference in the lives of others. However, if I can at least make a difference in one person’s life, I’ll be content.
  3. For fun (besides writing), I sing and play the keyboard and guitar.
  4. A pet peeve of mine is being able to hear someone chew while eating. It’s not really a big deal. We’re only human. But it does get to me sometimes.
  5. My favourite place to be is home, but depending on my mood, a beach sounds much more appealing.
  6. I would have to say I like that I care for others, even though I’m not always good at showing it.
  7. In the future, I see myself working a day job to support my dreams, possibly married.
  8. Many things make me happy, like writing, food & love (in all forms).
  9. One of my biggest regrets in life would have to be never truly making the best of my high school years.
  10. A memorable moment in my life was finding out what I truly want to be: a writer.