The Power Of TV

As someone who grew up on horror movies, I have come to the conclusion that, as much as we wish it wasn’t so, not everything on tv is good for our minds. Even as an eighteen year old, I can assure you that if I switched on horror movie right now, I’d be having nightmares tonight.

The fact that watching the television actually has the ability to alter the mind should make this a little less surprising. Still, if we really cared about our brains, this should be at least little alarming to us, yet most of us are willing to watch just about anything as long as it entertains us.

Now I just want you to stop and think about this for a moment. There is so much power behind the concept of television that it’s almost scary to think about it, but what’s even more interesting is the fact that the real power is in our hands.

Now here’s the other thing. The people behind these movies and shows know the power they hold. They know what we like, and sure enough, they’re going to use it to their own gain, regardless of whether what is being shown is really good for our mental health or not. The good thing is, we are the ones who have the choice.

As someone who no longer watches horror movies, I can honestly say it’s a relief that I can actually go to bed at night and not worry about some lady coming to get me. Silly as it may sound, I’ve never been happier.

If you find that the things you’re watching have started to have a negative impact on your mind, it’s a sign that it’s high time you switched the channel. Today, I challenge you to make that change. Trust me. A few minutes of entertainment is not worth your sanity.


xx @dainellewrites

My Kpop Divorce

As a young teenager, the only kind of music I allowed myself to listen to was rock/metal. I loved these genres for the simple fact that no other could accurately express what it was really like to be an angry teen who didn’t quite fit with the rest. This was quite a stretch from what I listened to previously – mainstream pop.

Years later, being in a much better state of mind, I returned to my old habit of listening to poppy tunes, only this time, those with a different flavour. Not too long ago, I started listening to kpop. Kpop in and of itself wasn’t so foreign to me as I, as a young girl, had listened occasionally listened to some songs from well-known girl groups. As I reconnected with my happier self, I began to explore this pop world a little more, and discovered one particular boy band, one which quickly worked its way into my heart.

The icing on the cake for me was the fact that as charismatic as the members were in front of a camera, behind the scenes, they were just as quirky as I was. But as I continued watching their videos and listening to their songs, I started to feel something wasn’t right.

So as much as felt entertained by these people, our hearts were not in the same place. Their songs, good looks and charisma were enough to give me a kind of high, but at the end of the day, it was about what I wanted in life. I wanted to live a meaningful life, yet all I was filling my head with was distraction. As I allowed myself to get sucked in this superficial kind of world, consequentially, I too became a little superficial myself.

The deal breaker for me was watching a video with very strange imagery and realizing that even though the masses had no idea what it meant, they loved it. Why is this such a bad thing? Because even though one would normally question something so eerie and suggestive of something of a darker nature, all they could see was a pretty face. Even I, though usually weary of these things, would ignore what I couldn’t understand for the sake of being entertained.

Nowadays, I choose to live life a little more authentically; a life without distraction. Listening to music that actually reflects my faith and who I am, I feel a little more sober-minded and at peace. Whilst I do think there are talented people in the kpop industry, I hate to think that I would have to continually feed my mind things that contradicted all the things I stood for to enjoy it, even only for the sake of seeing a pretty face. Surely a person is worth more than that.


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Positive, Realistic Thinking (Personal Growth Challenge)

In order to think positively, some people like to live in oblivion, ignoring all the bad things and focusing only on the good. On the flip side, there are people who like to dwell on the bad. Either way, both stances are understandable. After all, we’re all just trying to live here.

But what if there was another way? The good news is, there is.

As we embrace positive thinking, we should never allow ourselves to become oblivious. Thankfully, life isn’t so black and white, and so it is possible for us to maintain awareness whilst exercising this kind of thinking. In other words:

“Don’t be a doubter. Don’t be your own fortuneteller. You have no idea what the future holds. All you have to do is try to do your best.”

These are, theoretically, very positive words, but in order to tap into their power, you’re going to have to take action. In other words, you’re going to have to change your mindset.

“I am going to win. I am going to succeed.”

These words accurately reflect what I mean when I warn you not to be a fortuneteller. They often times set you up for disappointment. Now look at this statement.

“I am going to fail. I am going to be unsuccessful.”

These statements, though completely opposite, serve the same purpose. Both are trying to predict the future. The only thing we can do is try and hope. In the end, both of these statements are meaningless and potentially harmful to us.

Perhaps, the best way then is to look at it is this way.

“Even it I fail, at least I will learn something.” 

Today, I challenge you to find that middle ground.


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5 Questions To Ask This Summer

Summer is a time for fun and surprises! At least, so I’ve heard. For me, summer has always been more about boredom, food and the occasional family trip. That doesn’t sound all that exciting to me, though I do enjoy the trips. Then again, where I come from, it’s practically summer all around. In fact, where I come from, we don’t have summer! (But we do have the wet & dry seasons).

All that aside, I want to hear from you.  Here are five questions you can answer or ask a friend.

  1. What are you doing this summer?
  2. How can someone spice up a boring summer?
  3. How can someone have fun this summer on a low-budget?
  4. What can someone who’s stuck at work this summer make it a little more enjoyable?
  5. What are some ways to you could help someone out this summer?

My answers:

  1. I’m going to be doing a lot of reading this summer (hopefully). There is also the possibility of a beach trip. I would also like to volunteer.
  2. Switch it up! Make a list of things you want to try and make it happen! (but please, be safe).
  3. Go out with a group of friends. Create you own games making use of what you have (even if it’s only your bare hands).
  4. Be a little crafty. Practice good time management. Set aside a time for work and a time for play, and do not allow them to overlap.
  5. Join a volunteer program. Or, take it to the streets. Give to the needy, and while you’re at it, why not sing a song?

That’s it! Hope you’re all having fun!


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4 Reasons To Stand Out Of The Crowd

Remember the good old days when people were told not to follow the crowd?

1. The majority isn’t always right.

We’ve all heard the saying “Majority rules,” and when it comes to decision-making, it is certainly true. Looking back at history, however, we can see that the majority isn’t always making the right decision. When things like slavery are considered, it’s safe to say that simply ‘going with the flow’ isn’t always ideal. As Hitler once said:

If you tell a big enough lie and tell it frequently enough, it will be believed.

That, ladies and gentlemen, is how easy it is to influence the mind. After all, these words came from a man who manipulated many.

My advice here is simple. Find the truth, and hold onto it. As it is said:

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. John 8:32

And yes, that was a Bible quote.

2. You won’t risk losing yourself.

Many people follow the crowd in order to feel accepted. The sad truth is, in doing this, not only is it possible that you could be making someone else’s life hell, you’re doing the exact same thing to yourself. While accompanying people you have nothing in common with, you miss out of the opportunity to build solid, authentic friendships and settle for what was easier to attain. After faking it long enough, surely anyone would start to lose themselves.

3. People hide their true feelings.

If it is the fear of ridicule that makes following the crowd appealing to you, then it can be comforting to know that many people like to ‘act tough’. In other words, they might very well be fighting their own battle, and so, use a hateful tongue to hide. Regardless of the reason, we’re all flawed human beings. Therefore, no one has the right to say or even portray his/herself as being superior to anyone.

4.  You can’t please everyone.

The truth is that even if you choose to change everything about yourself, someone is going to find a reason to hate you. Sometimes, all you can do is try to do the right thing and carry on with yourself.


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The Lies We Tell Ourselves

You’re ugly. You’re useless. You can’t do anything right. These are some of the lies we tell ourselves, while our God-given talents lie hidden within us, dying to be put to good use.

From a young age, we are placed in a classroom. Despite our differences, the same material is taught to all of us to be digested and utilized in our lives. This education is what gives us the opportunity to grow, find our passions and set our goals. It all sounds great, until you start comparing yourself to that one student who excels in everything.

Here’s something school won’t teach you. You’re not going to be good at everything, but you are going to be good at something. Today, I challenge you to find that something. School is much more than a place you go to get good grades. It’s a place you go to find what you’re good at, and how you can use it to make the world a little better, if you let it be.

Whether you’ve failed a thousand times or haven’t gotten all the right opportunities, know that learning neither begins nor ends with formal schooling. Let the world be your classroom! Success doesn’t have to mean a big house or a fancy car (and woe to who it does). Success can be as simple as finding something you’re good at, and doing it.

My message here is simple. Study the books, but don’t let them define you. There is a whole world out there, and there’s a place in it for each and every one of us. Nothing is accidental. God has made you with a greater purpose, and sometimes, it just doesn’t align with what the world expects of us. I dare you, go find that purpose.

Guilt: A Christian Perspective (Personal Growth Challenge)

As humans, we often find ourselves struggling to do the right thing. We want to do it, but time and time again, we find ourselves doing the exact opposite. Feeling guilty, we’re tempted to think about our mistakes over and over again, wishing we could just go back in time and undo them. The reality is, we can’t.

Now here’s a twist. The same guilt that constantly reminds us of our errors can be the very reason we keep on repeating them. As a result, we keep on reliving the same shame and regret, never truly finding peace. These feelings can take us to a place of hopelessness, where we feel as if we can never be able to recover.

But regardless of how we feel about ourselves or what we have done, we know that God is ready and willing to forgive, but we must first be willing to make ourselves vulnerable before Him and ask with a sincere heart.

I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake, and remembers your sin no more.

– Isaiah 43:25


Now, let’s get one thing straight. This message isn’t only for “people like me.” These words are intended for anyone who is willing to take that leap of faith; to explore and challenge the inner self and embrace its vulnerability.

Whoever you may be, whatever you’re dealing with, today I challenge you to pour your heart out to God. Tell Him everything. Do not let guilt win, but embrace the future that awaits you.

 

On Modern Art

By now, it should be quite obvious that I am absolutely in love with art. These days, I’ve been exploring my artistic side, journaling & dabbling a bit in photography.

I am a believer in meaningful art – art with a purpose – even if that purpose is as simple as taking a moment to appreciate the beauty of nature. Art is meant to make us feel something; to challenge our minds.

Today, things are a little different. Art has become so controversial that it seems we’ve seen in all. Nothing shocks us anymore. Nothing is left up to the imagination, & the effect it has had on us is enormous, yet many of us don’t realize it.

Some believe that art has to be dark to be meaningful, but I’m going to be honest. This kind of art takes me to a very bad place. For this reason, I try to be careful when choosing which things to indulge in, but that’s just me.

What are your thoughts on art? Let me know by answering these questions.

1. What is the purpose of art?

2. How has art impacted our society?

3. How has art changed over the years?

4. Does art have to be shocking to be meaningful?

5. Should artists reveal everything in their art, or maintain an air of mystery?

That’s it! Feel free to share your answers in a blog post or in the comment section below. Enjoy!


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Fear/Anxiety – Tips & Advice

Previously, I have spoken about my experience with agoraphobia. However, I have yet to tell how I overcame it. Below is a list of tips for those who are struggling with anxiety.

Please note that the advice which is about to be given is based on personal experience and not professional knowledge.

1. Learn more about anxiety.

When suffering from an anxiety disorder, it can feel as if your body is the enemy. Understanding anxiety can help you to stop feeling this way. If you suspect you have an anxiety disorder, schedule an appointment with a doctor, preferably one you feel comfortable with.

The internet also has quite a lot of information on this topic. Keep in mind that many struggle with anxiety and there is no reason to feel ashamed.

2. Keep a journal.

Writing is therapeutic. It allows you to free your thoughts, dumping all your emotions onto the page. It digs deep into your subconscious and reveals things to you. It can not only help you make sense of your anxiety, but provides a sense of relief. Keep in mind that it is not the only outlet.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.

This one sounds a little cliche, but for many, it is no doubt an important part of the recovery process. Having a friend or a group of friends who support you & are rooting for you to get better is a great way to start challenging your negative thoughts. Though it is impossible to control what everyone else says, having someone to support you can be enough to help you power through it.

4. Take care of your body.

Though not entirely a cure, getting adequate rest and exercise is necessary. While anxiety itself makes it difficult to sleep, there are some foods & teas that may help. Chamomile tea, for example, calms the nerves and makes falling asleep a little easier. Changing a few things about your diet will also make a difference. Eliminate caffeine, refined sugars & alcohol. See more here.

5. Don’t fight the feeling.

Breathing exercises can help soothe anxiety, if done correctly. Rather than trying to escape a situation that makes one anxious, it is helpful to doing a breathing exercise instead. It is a powerful tool which one can even use to overcome anxiety. See exercises here.

Spirituality is also beneficial for many individuals struggling with fear/anxiety. Though friends won’t always be around, knowing that God is watching over you brings a sense of comfort.

6. Say “yes.”

This is where things get tough. For those who suffer from anxiety disorders, it can be easier to avoid situations that trigger fear than to take chances. This is no surprise as anxiety disorders causes the individual to suffer from intense feelings of fear in certain situations, unlike that which one who does not suffer from an anxiety disorder would feel. But for some, the key to recovery can be as simple, and as terrifying, as saying “yes.”

*This means saying yes to the things you like to do that are beneficial to you (which fear prevents you from doing).

7. Seek help.

Find a professional that’s right for you. Trust plays a vital role in this decision as it can be difficult to open up to someone you barely know. Take your time. Get to know them and allow them to get to know you. Keep in mind that nothing you say can leave that room unless it involves hurting yourself/ others. However, please do not let this deter you. It is all apart of the recovery process.


Once again, these are tips I have found helpful during my own plight. My greatest advice for you is to do what works for you, as long as it doesn’t harm you or anyone around you.